The woman in me Is the feminine me The strong confident Graceful me The woman in me Is filled with bravery The loving trusting Resilient me The woman in me Is the courage in me The spirit in me The woman in me
Someone recently asked me what does resiliency mean to me? Well, resiliency to me is having choice and hope, and most importantly making life worth living with what you are presented with. Being resilient is being a female, being a woman. . .
This Christmas, I almost made the decision not to come home. I am glad that I did. It’s not a far trip to come home (in comparison to my other friends) but it isn’t exactly a short one either. I planned to stay home and work on some to-do lists and readings for school. Then, not long after making this decision, I called home (which I do practically every day), and got news that my dad could come pick me up. I debated but not too long. Within a few days, I made the decision.
The trip home seemed like a short one. Normally, it feels like it takes forever. There was no snow. We made a few wrong turns, which were quite entertaining actually. The first one was just outside Woodstock region. My dad had to make a stop. I asked him why. “Just nevermind.” That’s my dad for ya!
Finally when we made it to Toronto, my dad took me and Alicia out to eat at a nice Italian restaurant. Before going to this place, my dad said that he didn’t want to spend a lot of money on pizza anywhere. That’s understandable. We walked to the restaurant from my sister’s place. It wasn’t far. But when we arrived, I told him “This place looks expensive.” He just says, “No, let’s go in.” It was a nice place. Cozy. Everyone seemed to know everyone. Hugging everywhere (or maybe that’s what Italians do). The pizza was really good and at a reasonable price for Toronto. “La Passione” … I recommend it.
When we had left for the final trip up north, I was still sluggish. Well it was early in the morning and I was still recovering from being sick that previous week. During the trip, I was able to read. I brought my earphones to listen to my ipod but this time I opted not to. I wanted to enjoy my time with my dad who I haven’t seen in a long time (okay well maybe since the summer…still that’s a long time for me). It was a safe trip since we ultimately made it Sudbury to drop off the rental car. Moving our luggage into my family’s vehicle, my dad noticed one of the tires were flat (well, not entirely flat but flat enough to be concerned about another 1.5-2 hour drive). Luckily, we made it to an auto-garage to get it fixed. I remember sitting in these garages with my dad as a kid. I hated it but when I sat there, I didn’t mind it. I was spending time with my dad. We both chuckled when we wondered what my sister’s pet ferret must be thinking about where the car was going and all that noise. It wasn’t a long wait. The tire was fixed and it was done at no charge (I don’t know if that’s a normal thing to do but it was nice either way). Finally on the road for last lag of the trip, all the way to Manitoulin Island.
We arrived at my sister’s house. I didn’t even wait to grab my luggage and ran inside. As I opened the door, my nephew ran out of the bedroom, pyjamas, messy hair, inquisitive look. As soon as he noticed it wasn’t someone he could recognize, he ran back in. Scared. My sister came out with my nephew and decided to let him stay up for a bit longer. I was happy. He saw the Western Mustang on my pants, pointed and said, “Naaaay!” He then saw my sister’s pet ferret, pointed and started panting like a dog. Yup, that’s a classic example of Piaget’s pre-operational stage in child development for you: everything with a tail, four legs, and fur is a dog. Little people have a way to bring a smile to your face with all these little things that they do. Within a few minutes, he was running and playing with me. I just love my nephew so much.
While at the house, we ate some supper, played some games, watched my nephew being silly, etc. Sitting here writing this post, I am happy that I came home. The one thing that I asked from my family was not to get to me anything this year. Yet, coming to pick me up in London was the greatest gift of all. I am thankful to see my growing, inquisitive, smiling young nephew. I am thankful that both of my parents are still here. I am thankful that my mom is able to cook me and my family some good freakin’ meals, holidays or not. I am thankful for the snow that is coming down today. Being thankful for all these things, I must not forget about those that are not that fortunate. Those without a family. Those apart from their family. Those without a home. Those without a bed. Those without clothing. Those without warmth, love, etc. Those who have family and friends making a different journey home…to the spirit world. All of which are in my thoughts/prayers this weekend. Like I wrote earlier, the greatest gift of all, for me, is being able to come home and spend the weekend with family.
The work that this young person does is amazing! She is an Indigenous young person doing great things at a global level. Amazing voice, amazing message 🙂
And, she is only 10 years old,
“Our generation is undoubtedly drunk on oil…stop waiting ’til tomorrow. Stop living yesterday cause there won’t be tomorrow if we don’t change today.”
If you do something, make sure you are the best person you can be at what you are doing
(Okay I lied, its 4 things my mom taught but only because I love this last one) “You don’t have to be friends with everyone, but you have to be nice to them
Wow! It is 2012 (well almost). This past year (so far) has been filled with some up and downs but I am happy with myself. I tended to focus on the ups (even when I was down). I tried my best (even if someone else didn’t think it was the best). This coming year… I am going to try harder to be better (not better than you but better than who I was this year).
I remember someone said
“If you are not a better person than you were last year, then you cannot be a better person as a whole.”
Elected chief of the Red Sucker Lake Indian Band (now Red Sucker Lake First Nation) at age 29.
Appointed to cabinet as Minister Without Portfolio Responsible for Native Affairs and later as Minister of Northern Affairs.
Blocked the Canadian constitutional amendment known as the Meech Lake Accord for “lack of adequate participation and recognition of Aboriginal people in that process.”
Won the Stanley Knowles Humanitarian Award (the same presented to Nelson Mandela of South Africa.)
Voted as the Newsmaker of the Year in Canada for 1990 by the Canadian Press.
In 1990, the Red Sucker Lake First Nation bestowed him the title of Honourary Chief for Life.
For more on Elijah Harper, please visit his website.
Today I watched a video and shared with others on my facebook wall.
Watch it for yourself.
Then not too long after my friend, who I met during a summer job one year, shared her story. Here is her story:
Watched a youtube video about this grade 8 kid named Jonah…
Brought back some old memories…
I remember in grade 1, this older boy would tease me everyday on the bus… called me a little chinese girl…(because my eyes were small)… this hurt me… I would think in my head about how much i wanted to hurt this kid…
When I was 10, people would tell me that I acted “white”… because i had manners, because i was nice, because i have light skin, because i was the teachers pet…because i did things a certain way… I didn’t feel “indian” enough to fit in with my own people….
At the end of grade 5, a goup of girls decided to single me out… ignore me, give me dirty looks, bump into me onpurpose, make me feel like garbage… and when i would react, they said they were (Just Kidding)…i hurt inside… i missed a lot of school because of that…
In grade 6, boys would sling me down, shove snow in my face, call me fat, call me four eyes, call me ugly, called me “white” … and when I would react, they said they were (Just Kidding)…i’ve had snow balls and rocks shot at my head, at my back, on my legs…. i would have to run home a lot…. those boys made me cry many times… going to school didn’t feel safe for me…. but once i would get home and close that door, i would have a moment of relief that i made it home…
In grade 7, i was a target for bullying… this boy would say anything mean…. he intimidated me, made me feel low, called me a son-of-a-bitch, talk shit about my family…. the worst part about it… he would make others laugh at me….and when I would react, he would say that he was (Just Kidding)
High School, they called me a nerd… get mad at me for doing my work… get mad if i got a high mark… laughed in my face because i wanted to become a photographer… when i wanted to get involved with year book or photography club, I was called a LOSER…. then they said they were.. (Just Kidding)…
Throughout those years i had a lot of anger inside…and trust issues… I hated the people who put me through that…. I disliked myself… for me, the glass was half empty… I did not want to be noticed by others… I was really quiet…. I hid behind my hoody sweaters…. because of the bullying, I had low self-esteem….
I was lucky enough to know that there were people who cared about me… my family (who made my home a safe place to come to), my close friends (who stuck up for me many times), my teachers (who encouraged me to go further with education) , community members (who said Hi, shook my hand, and gave a me a smile) …. without them….. I don’t know what could have happend…
What would I say to the bullies today….. I forgive you…. and thank you… because if it wasn’t for you… I wouldn’t be as successful as I am today…. yes, it is painful to even think about some of the things I’ve been through, but the honest truth is… It has made me so much stronger today!!!
Just like Jonah said in his youtube video…. “there are a million reasons to be here”
I never knew her story before having met her; however, when I met her, she was always laughing, smiling. Literally, her smile would make others smile (well it made me smile anyways). She was the most positive person I have met (and I have met a lot of positive people… she is up there).
Today, she is married, takes awesome photographs, and still has the best smile!
Seriously people, if you see someone being bullied, try to help them as best you can. Nobody should have to live life with suicide as “an option.” And like my friend Jamie highlights Jonah’s own words,
“Impossible isn’t a fact. It is an opinion….when my father looks possible in the eye and defeats it again and again, what do you think I am going to do when they say women shouldn’t box?”
Laila Ali. My idol. When I first saw her box, she won TKO on the 2nd round out of 14. I remember that day too. My dad was watching the television. I walked by, saw the fight, and stopped. I knew right then and there I wanted to get into that ring and wear the same shorts she did. Pink. I tried my hardest to find a gym that would train girls or allow girls ring time. It was really hard. I was about 14 years old. Both me and my 2 sisters. It was fun to have them there. I mean, we were the only girls so the only way we could get into the ring was with each other (yeah, Sayers’ girls in the ring sparring against each other!!!)
The boxing helped me to deal with the boys and girls at school who teased me. It was a way to get my frustrations out. Then when I was in the car accident, I obtained an acquired brain injury. I learned I couldn’t box anymore. Well, they said I couldn’t get in the ring but I still wanted to train. I kept up with the running. The running helped a lot. It helped to clear my head. It helped me to get away. Like when I was in the ring.
To all those people that ever said to me or even thought to themselves, “she will never make it…”, I just stand tall and remember that impossible is an opinion but it won’t be my opinion.
I may not be able to get into that ring anymore and wear pink satin boxing shorts and have pink boxing gloves, but there is a bigger world to conquer….and must remember,
There is something I keep learning over and over again in school: C. Wright Mills “Sociological Imagination.” In other words, to put one self in another’s shoes to shift from one perspective to another. To understand private troubles vs. public issues. What is a private trouble? Well, the example continuously given in classes: if one person can’t find a summer job is that a public issue? No, that is a private trouble because it only affects one person. If a group of people can’t find a job for a period of time, then it is considered a public issue. Why? Well, it affects a whole group of people that can potential affect policies and the way public funding is administered, like social welfare. Social welfare agencies affect everyone in society whether you want to believe it or not.
So from my understanding, there is a whole nation of people who face 3rd world living conditions. Not in Africa. Not in India. Not in China. But right here in Canada. They also have little to no access to proper health care, clean running water (let alone indoor plumbing/heating/sturdy walls). See: Attawapiskat.
This isn’t an isolated issue. This is the story of many reserves across Canada.
But then you have non-Aboriginals, who can’t afford to pay their mortgage, lose their jobs, or can’t afford gas to drive their cars.
Some people in Canada believe that Aboriginals can get themselves out of their situation that it’s all because they “are lazy and drunks” and that they just “need to find a job” or “go to school” or “pay their taxes” or “stop drinking.” Just to name a few uneducated, ignorant excuses. Meanwhile, you have non-Aboriginals, all over North America, the states and Canada, who live in houses with running CLEAN water, indoor plumbing, heating, have beds with blankets, and some have a car parked in their garage. The moment that people can’t pay their mortgage or their loans or fill their car up with the gas, then it’s a problem that the government must handle.
So Canada, the welfare of other individuals affects us all. How can you just sit back and let this sort of injustice and prejudicial treatment happen within Canada?
Sign this petition if you want to help change happen!
This is not the first of Harper’s initiatives that greatly affects Aboriginals who are already facing high rates of incarceration within Canada’s federal prison system. Harper’s “Truth in Sentencing Act” which proposed limits on the amount of credit a judge could give to an individual who spent time in pre-sentencing custody. According to the article,
Aboriginal offenders tend to be released later in their sentences (lower parole grant rates), are overrepresented in segregation populations, are more likely to have served previous youth and/or adult sentences, are more often held to the expiry of their sentence, are classified as more likely to reoffend and have their conditional release revoked more often and are classified as higher risk and higher need.
That means more Aboriginals spend more time sitting in remand (that means still sitting institutions locked up) and because of the Truth in Sentencing Act, they will not receive credit for the time spent before sentencing. No more 2 for 1. This piece of legislation came into effect last year on February 23, 2011.
And according to AFN’s statement THIS YEAR, Harper’s Tough-on-Crime Bill will hurt First Nations. Yeah, let’s state the obvious. With this previous bill (now legislation), Harper was warned that this would hurt Aboriginals and yet even when he didn’t have majority, it still went through.
In the mean time, welcome to Canada…Canada! Repeated layers of oppression right on top of each other for the already oppressed! Yay for Harper! **enter sarcasm** Thank you, you are earning brownie points with the Aboriginals…